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[quote=Anonymous]Ok, so I freely admit that I am a practical problem solver - so here's the deal you are close to giving birth and these circumstances exist, so here's what I would personally do for the time being.

First, when you meet your labor and delivery nurse and your recovery nurse - I would wait until DH goes to the bathroom or to buy a drink and explain the issue with your inlaws to your nurses and tell them that they need to assist you in ushering these particular people out of the room after a certain point. Trust me - they understand and I have a zero doubt that they will help you.  I mean - when I was in the hospital if someone came by there was a decent chance that one of us was having some form of testing down, so honestly visitors never saw the baby half the time.  All it requires is them coming in to "run another test in the nursery" or something and voila there go the visitors - there is also quiet visitor time anyway, so they can be asked to leave then too.

Then - once you get home - and I don't mean to be passive aggressive - but I'd personally let it all hang out - yes, awkward with your mother in law and father in law, but I found nothing got people out of my house faster than me breastfeeding on the couch out in the open - at the very beginning I just couldn't use a cover because I needed to see her mouth, my nipple, and latch and re-latch quite a few times.  I wasn't even trying to get them to leave, but baby was hungry and she needed to eat and it's really really hard to put a cover over at the beginning - a few weeks in I had mastered it, but it was my first time breastfeeding and the baby and I needed some time - plus my milk didn't come in until day 5, so I had a lactation consultant hanging over me in my house with a dropper of formula and a plastic tubing running into the babies mouth as she sucked on my boob!

My mother in law didn't come until 2 1/2 weeks and then only one for a day and a half and I adore her and I still found it stressful - no matter what you want your in laws to like you and think you are doing a good job with your grandchildren.

Good luck and I am sorry you are dealing with this kind of stress - it's time to enlist some other tools to make it work!

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