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The end goal is to be a financially independent adult, OP.

This means going to college, since the income gap between non-college educated adults and college-educated adults keeps widening.

This means having solid reading comprehension skills as well as solid writing skills! College admissions get more competitive every year. You can't just walk into your state U anymore. UMD and UVA both require top GPAs and if you submit a standardized test score, they need to be high.

I cannot overstate the importance of working on this! You need to persuade/bribe/crush your middle schooler's opposition to additional tutoring because she does not realize she's sabotaging herself for life. Explain it and say it's non-negotiable.

I'm not an expert on dyslexia. But my son with several learning disabilities, ADHD and HFA needed to work specifically on reading comprehension and a skill called inferencing (understanding unwritten information from context clues). He had a writing tutor that worked on all aspects of written organization and reading comprehension, but mostly on inferencing, for most of middle school, and then he had ACT test prep in high school, as well as occasional tutoring for some of his AP course work. We have spent a small fortune on this, and it's been worth it: he would never have made all the progress he has without one-on-one tutoring.

Please tell your child that families who can afford it pay for tutors to increase their kids' changes of getting into a good college, even if they have good grades to begin with and no learning disability. In my corner of Bethesda, most students will have a tutor for something at some point, whether they're in private or public!
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OP: this poster is a bit dramatic.  Yes find a writing tutor but dyslexia will not ultimately get ‘fixed’ to match a neurotypical child’s brain.  And that is what is known as genetic diversity.  My dyslexic brother in law is CRUSHING it in insurance- surpassing your surgeons in terms of net worth.  He says his social skills - developed while grinding his way through high school and one year of a trade were the keys to his ultimate success.  There is even a book that lists the numerous dyslexic entrepreneurs called I think, ‘The Gift of Dyslexia’[/quote]

PP you all replied to.

I never mentioned "good" vs, what not "good" colleges? like someone else who replied to my post. 
And I never intimated that dyslexia can be "fixed", PP.

The reason I am so forthright - and perhaps you're all reacting to that - is that my son with severe ADHD/HFA/dyscalculia (same as dyslexia but for math)/low processing speed, is a senior in high school and in the nightmare of college applications. I just want to warn all of you parents of bright neurodivergent kids out there, who think your kids do have the skills to make it in college, that college admissions are brutal. You think any kid with solid grades, decent test scores and a few activities can get to college? Not the colleges that you went to. I'm not being "dramatic" for fun, PP. It's just a bit of a let-down, when your kid has survived so many obstacles, is finally functional enough and has the vision to seek higher education, and then you realize they actually needed to be hyper-functional and have a 4.0 gpa, several AP courses, and several achievements in extra-curriculars, to get to what you thought was a mediocre institution. Perhaps you're seeing your kid struggle now, and you're like "yeah, any college will be fine". I guarantee you that you'll get a little bit more ambitious when your kid grows in confidence and ability. Parents of typical high schoolers are realizing this too. But I think for parents for kids with special needs, it's particularly bitter. It's not like college admissions officers give students a pass if they write about overcoming their disabilities. So gird up for further toil and trouble down the road, is what I mean.

In terms of understanding what college is all about, and wanting to go, I wouldn't worry too much about that from a middle schooler. My own neurotypical middle schooler went through a similar phase. Unlike my intellectual senior with LDs, who wants college to learn more, she wants to go to college to "make more money". Ouch. But I guess, that's also a valid reason? 
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I am the PP that responded to your post with the reference to “good” colleges.  I am sorry to hear about your child’s experience in the college application process.

My child is significantly younger (sixth grader).  My child also experienced ASD/ anxiety with dyslexia and dysgraphia.  I think my attempted point is consistent with what you wrote.

I am sure many of us here attended highly ranked schools and were in the rat race for college admissions (which as you describe even worse now).  Even though my child is probably more intelligent than me in a lot of ways, I know already his options for college will be much more limited (assuming we get to the point we reach that point).  I was only trying to say that at least for me, the goal for my child will be finding a fit (which could be in the end a community college, it is hard to know at this point and maybe things will improve).  [/quote]

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