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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP with a child suffering from SM. I forgot to say, phrases like thank you, please, hello, etc are the most difficult for kids with social anxiety because there is an expectation to say them.

Posters above who are attacking this kid’s manners and mom’s parenting: you are really lucky to have NT kids who can do these things with ease, but you haven’t walked in other peoples’ shoes [/quote]

What is SM? It's odd, because he's quite talkative in most situations. But if you're a server who asks what he wants to drink at a restaurant, you'd think you'd just asked him to do quantum physics. "Sprite, please," just won't come out. I've asked what the worst case scenario here is, and he doesn't want to talk about it. Flips out, actually. [/quote]

SM is selective mutism. It refers to the fear of speaking in selective, not all, social situations. My child was also super chatty in certain places around certain people, but in other public situations, she was mute. It was CBT that helped her but also practicing the skills she learned in therapy out in public. The key was lowering expectations of speaking which lowered anxiety and then breaking down the desired behavior into small steps and then practicing them in increasingly difficult steps. I found this book super helpful: The Selective Mutism Resource Manual: 2nd Edition (A Speechmark Practical Sourcebook) https://a.co/d/ePTgzrs[/quote]

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