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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if you are willing for them to visit on an alternate date, why not Christmas Day? It’s just another date on the calendar to you. How interesting you cannot answer this question. [/quote]

Yeah exactly.  This is what I don’t get.  I’m 100% team husband here.[/quote]

OP, consider that one reason your husband likes to visit on Christmas is that he gets to have the traditions, decor, and special foods without having to do/make/cook them himself.  Are you offering to help him with those things, to the extent they are important to him?

Visiting for Christmas means it all gets done in one go. If you stay at home, it's like having two Christmas-es instead of one. That might not be a better deal for you. TBH it sounds like you're looking for a way to avoid doing any Christmas.[/quote]

+1.  You need to make staying at home with the kids more special/fun/relaxing than whatever his mom does.  If you’re not able or willing to do this, then yeah, he’s going to want to continue spending Christmas morning at his mom’s house.[/quote]

OP here - I fully participate in everything Christmas at home. We decorate, we bake, we buy a ton of presents, we do a ton of Christmassy stuff, also those of you saying I don't do anything Christmas and I don't make yet fun for my kids are totally wrong. [/quote]

You just don't want to see your in-laws on a holiday that's important to them. Because you want to go on a vacation? Your husband isn't going to go for that. He's putting family, faith, and tradition above a need to go on a vacation on that day which happens to not be just another random day to him. Leave on the 27th for the vacation.[/quote]

This seems like the diagnosis and answer.[/quote]

+2[/quote]

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