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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've been married 12 yrs and approaching 60. He LITERALLY  walks like he's 90 and [b]constantly moans and groans[/b]. He's extremely sedentary and 40 lbs overweight. I've tried to get him to at least walk our neighborhood, but he's uninterested. Meanwhile I'm at the gym daily, very active, have a BMI of 21 and can still do jump squats.  We are both pretty much retired.  When we met he was about 30 lbs overweight but much more active, worked out and walked at a normal pace.

I feel this is so unfair when one spouse gives up on their health and the other does everything possible to stay healthy.   I don't understand  how he can look at me and not be motivated. He sees how much I workout and how I eat, yet he literally thinks it's genetics!  I've had friends tell me that we look weird together because at social gatherings he's sitting while I'm running around and dancing.  He's getting worse and worse and I bet he'll be in a wheelchair by the time he's 65.  :cry: [/quote]

Isn't the "moaning and groaning" indicative of something besides lack of interest? Maybe he's in pain and has stop exercising due to the pain. The lack of exercise could also contribute to mild depression further dampening his interest in exercise. As we get older activities that used to be fun can be painful--at least for some people. If he's walking more slowly and "moaning and groaning" that sounds like someone whose body is breaking down.[/quote]

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