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[quote=Anonymous]What do you want OP?  The roommate to give your DD a copy of her daily schedule? Why does you daughter care if the roommate is at lunch or orchestra practice at 1:00? Who she has dinner with and whether she socializes with a BF or goes to the library in the evening. Roommate is an adult.

Or,  you want the roommate to eat three meals a day with your daughter and create a social life for her?

Guess what?  The roommate is an adult who does not owe another adult (your kid) an accounting of her movements.  And it’s not her responsibility to create a circle of friends or a social life for your kid. Your kid needs to leave the room, join some clubs, talk to other people in the dorm and take responsibility for herself.

The only issue I see is if the roommate is really gone for days at a time, it’s outside the roommates normal pattern, and your kid was unaware that would be happening.   After a few days, you kid should probably tell the RA is case her roommate was abducted by aliens, or whatever and is genuinely missing.  The RA has a procedure to follow and it’s no longer your kid’s responsibility.

But really, roommates should exchange text numbers and your DD should just be able to text a “haven’t seen you in a few days, just making sure all is well”.

OP— you seem to not grasp basic concepts about what two adults who are acquaintances owe each other. Which is basic courtesy in making sure both parties can use the room (sanitation, a quiet time for sleep, respecting the other persons stuff) and … that’s it. [/quote]

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