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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I SAH b/c otherwise I'd be on here posting one of those threads about how my marriage is falling apart b/c DH and I can't seem to fairly divide household and childcare responsibilties well.

Our son was diagnosed with ADHD at age 5 and at that point DH and I both got evaluatedand were both diagnosed too. Just one of those things where it was not such a big deal pre-kids but relative weaknesses were really magnified once we were parents.

Both of us having to wear both bread-winner and domestic-care hats didn't play to either of our strengths and exasperated our weaknesses.

DH was already in a solid paying job but has stepped it up professionally and I SAH to cover the home front--which actually is demanding for me b/c my exec. functioniong skills are less than stellar. But although I'm not a natural at it, I really enjoy SAH b/c I derive most of my self-worth from instrinsic validation. DH and I both know that I'm doing what we both need me to be doing. And I let him know how much I appreciate the fact that he can finance a comfortable lifestlye for us--b/c otherwise we would be drowning.

I just wanted to share this b/c this isn't about having an immaculate home or maintaining the perfect social calendar, etc. We're just a husband and wife who looked at the realities on the ground of the family we had created and course corrected as needed.  In other words, the dynamics are equitable.[/quote]

+1. I could have written this except we have more than one child with adhd and my husband does not have adhd. We do have more kids than usual though who are all very active and high achieving, which means they are very busy. I have a ton to do just getting them to their various obligations and taking care of our home. My husband doesn’t believe one’s value is all about their career. He does very well and provides us with a very comfortable lifestyle. We work together and consider ourselves a team. [/quote]

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