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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 16yo ds is 5' 6" and done growing and I assure you he is doing great too. [/quote]

Thank you for saying this.  We're a tall-ish family so maybe it's easy for us to say, but the emphasis on height is exhausting.  When I go to the gym, I assure you that no amount of my height makes me more attractive than some of the far shorter kings wandering around there.

If you're worried about a shorter kid being unable to play certain sports, just pick a different activity - there are plenty out there.  [/quote]

It is easy for you to say.  All the short men are doing great and also it's an advantage, particularly for a man, to be taller.  A documented advantage.  So people think about these things.   If it's exhausting don't open the thread.[/quote]

Good call.  As the parent of a young boy, I should avoid threads with titles like " (Yet another) Question about boy’s puberty " that sound relevant to my interests on the off chance that they're feeding into a superficial societal preference that hasn't been rational for centuries, if ever.

If it makes you feel better, being tall isn't always a positive.  Sitting in the 99/100% for height, from preschool through high school I was always assumed to be a few years older than I was.  Which meant that, during my formative years, I enjoyed far less latitude for childish behavior than my peers.  I have countless stories of me being branded as the aggressor in a physical playground situation simply because I was the bigger participant.  Extrapolate that to nearly every kind of interaction with adults - even though I was the youngest kid in my grade.  And I see the same thing happen with my son who is 5'3" at 9yo.  Is that worth the minimal extra lifetime earnings or the extra 0.00001% I can be a CEO?  I don't think so, but it was my fate and I'm fine with it.  Just as I hope your child is fine with theirs as long as they don't pick up on your perception of them as somehow less than others.

But please.  Continue gnashing your teeth about how average and short men are doomed to a substandard life despite all evidence to the contrary.  [/quote]

Wow.  I have a tall son.  Always tallest in his grade.  Off the chart the day he was born and never once on it. My tall son seems to have made it out just fine. He was never once branded the aggressor.  Never an issue for him and he's now an older teen.  He's a gentle type and never got himself in those situations.   Might be you and your DNA as being genuine, you are sounding irrationally angry and slightly hysterical.

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When the killing of 5'11" 17 yr old Trayvon Martin happened at the hands of 5'7" George Zimmerman, I was super scared for my then 16yr. old 5'11" son thinking that no one would see him as a kid/teen but a "grown man"  based purely on his height.

I've had my share of moments when I've had to tell people "he's only 15" or "yes, he's tall but he's only 16".

I have a late bloomer son as well and I can tell people engage with him differently, he's still "cute", "sweet", "adorable" etc.

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Mom of tall son again.  Mine is 6-5.  His whole life people thought he was older. I suppose anything in life can have a negative or an angle to worry about.  The way I've always looked at it, 9 times out of 10 he's going to be left alone because of his height and not a target.  No he's not treated like he's cute or sweet or adorable.  Oh well.  I hear what you are saying that people think they are older.   I always told him in a mixed kid age setting, kids will assume he is older and he should state his age and if there is an ongonig issue, leave.    At mixed age sports camps, I would tell him to clearly tell an adult his age and say he wanted to be on his correct age team or group.  And if that was a problem let me know and I would step in.  Was never a problem after he said something.  Yes, he had to advocate for himself at times.  Life skills.

But it is what it is.  I just would never spin it in my brain as a bad thing for him.

I can't believe this thread has turned into boo hoo for tall guys.  Didn't see that coming.[/quote]

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