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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

It's incredibly frustrating -- post after post, people point out that addiction is a real, legitimate reason for divorce, don't get involved with an addict, it's only a matter of time, once an addict, always an addict.

But this isn't a problem? I don't get it. Seriously.

I appreciate that I might be coming from an emotional standpoint somewhat and I'm not an expert and appreciate the insights and recommendations. I've gone to Al-anon and the message I received for years was RUN if you come across someone who is an addict. I think the saying was "don't collect broken toys."

I am worried about my sister. I am worried about my nieces and nephew. I'm not a terrible person. I'm care about my family and have gone through a lot.[/quote]

BECAUSE THIS IS NOT ADDICTION. Get that in your very thick head. Being in remission for decades does not equal being sick. Your BIL is NOT an addict now. He could relapse and become one. But as the expert said up-thread, it's been so many years, he has very little risk of relapse at this point, if he continues to be careful around alcohol.

You insist on confusing active addiction and someone who has been sober for years and years. That is YOUR mistake. If you want any relationship at all with your sister and her kids, you need to understand that. She will cut you off before she allows you to spill your irrational hate on her family. And she will be entirely right.

What a hateful moron.
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