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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. You all seem unanimous so I think maybe it’s a cultural thing. Im from a different country originally where kids wouldn’t do this. DD wouldn’t either but probably because of me. To the PP who said “ who takes kids to Starbucks?” I didn’t take them, hence pre ordering on the app. We did a cold weather outside activity then I thought getting s hot chocolate close by would be nice. It’s all in the same area. [/quote]

It is a UMC with parents that don’t say no thing.  My kids wouldn’t do this, but their absolutely have friends that do.  I have no problems telling them no.  [/quote]

Then you’re rude.  Who only buys hot choc and refuses tea?!  How strangely controlling.   [/quote]

It’s rude to say you don’t want hot chocolate, but buy me a latte instead, at 10, or however old these kids are.  If a parent asks if you want hot chocolate, it is a yes or no question.  If one of the children says no, the polite adult would then ask if there was something else they would like instead.  But to presume you can get a latte instead is rude. [/quote]

My kid doesn't drink hot chocolate. He would most likely say no to the hot chocolate. When we get a drink he asks for a kids latte. I would say it is rude of the kids says "I don't like hot chocolate, I want a latte." I don't think it is rude to ask to substitute a latte for the hot chocolate. A lot of it depends on the words, phrasing, and tone of things.

It could be that the kid is allergic to chocolate or their family does not allow chocolate. I understand that the OP was doing something kind for the kids but there are a variety of reasons that a kid might ask for a substitution. I don't have a problem with that, unless the tone was awful. Maybe the lesson learned is to ask what kids would like from place X but put boundaries on it, drinks need to be under X amount and we are not ordering food. That is no different then I do for my child when we go out.[/quote]

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