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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I started SAH when my kids all went to school to try to enjoy more time for myself, but then struggled with *self-criticism* around this. I actually went to therapy because I was stuck on lots of “why are you wasting your time here on earth”/“why are you squandering your talents and energy”/“well you just killed your career for good”  type thoughts. And I can feel the judgment of others sometimes.

It’s a work in progress! You don’t have to apologize for your thoughts - we all have junk thoughts and judgments all the time. It’s only your actions that really matter.[/quote]

Oh man, I would love to pick your brain/join a support group to discuss this stuff with you. I'm the PP who is working part time with school age kids and struggling with my feelings and yes, it's these kinds of existential thoughts that plague me. And the external judgment. Even when I can objectively identify my value, even when I talk it through with my spouse and we discuss my value and the purpose in what I'm doing, I still struggle. It is so hard.[/quote]

Can I come too?? I'm a SAHM who has school age kids. I work every day not to feel humiliated and worthless about it, especially since I have been actively trying for 13 years--the entirety of my time as a SAHM--to stay in the workforce and have been unable to. It's so embarrassing and now people are telling me it's too late to have a career. I have a bad autoimmune disease, a special needs child (and another who isn't entirely neurotypical), and other circumstances that have led me to where I am, so I have every reason to go easy on myself. And yet I'm still get these thoughts and feelings. No fun.

I love the idea of "junk thoughts and judgments." It's an important reminder for all of us. [/quote]

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