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[quote=Anonymous]There are many reasons why someone does not work. Initially, I could not work due to visa status. Later on,  DH and I wanted one parent to be at home with kids and HHI is enough to have a  fairly decent lifestyle. We earn so that we can live. We do not live so that we can earn. That is our mindset.

The biggest benefit of working is earning money IMHO. If we need the money I will absolutely go  back to work. No questions asked. I also have the flexibility to go and earn money as my kids are grown.

However,  what I have right now is lots of time to have a relaxed life and also make life easier for every person in my family.   I think on some level many working people who work to earn money are well aware of this. That is why they get triggered and that is the main reason of WOHM vs SAHM wars.

No WOHM will ever envy a  SAHM with low HHI.  The poverty-stricken SAHM whose kids will have to take out loans for college is an object of pity on DCUM.   The ill-educated SAHM who is stuck in LMC life is just a pathetic doormat.  The envy/anger/derision is reserved for well-off and well educated SAHMs.

Also, wealthy WOHMs who can outsource a lot of chores and contribute to their family success in other areas just don't GAF about other people's life choices.  It is usually LMC or MC WOHMs who get triggered about UMC or wealthy well-educated SAHMs and their "cushy" life.  While, on the surface, it seems that we are only comparing WOHM vs SAHM in terms of employment and every other factor is the same,  in reality, it will always be apples to oranges comparison. There are tons of reasons why people work, tons of reasons why people stay at home.

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