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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Give me a break! We do these all the time! We have a large generous family and a small house. 
We don't need anymore toys, so if you don't like it don't go to the party, and get over yourself (I hate it when people use the term folks) [/quote]

It's actually considered rude to try to dictate how other give gifts.  Even Miss Manners says that you are not supposed to mention gift-giving unless the giver asks.  If you have a large generous family and a small house, then you graciously accept gifts, you save a few good gifts that you will not use to regift to other children when your child attends their parties and[b] you donate the remainder to charity[/b].  For close family and friends, you can discuss (away from any gift giving occasion) having too many things and that you'd prefer they not give gifts.  For acquaintances, like the parents of classmates, just let them give a gift and be gracious.

I agree with OP.  [b]To mention anything about gift giving, including "no gifts please" is rude[/b].  It's becoming more commonplace, but it is still rude.[/quote]

I agree. The host should not mention it, and takes care of the "unwanted" gifts quietly. [/quote]

Then people have wasted good time and $$ on gifts.  That seems a bit disengenuous to me.  "Please come and give my child a gift!  (Shhh, it's really going into the donate pile.)"[/quote]

Better than "your gift is not good enough for us" air. [/quote]

I think that says more about you, than it does about the host, if that's the message you are taking away from it.  Try not to take everything so personally.  Like a PP said, we're just "trying to save other people money, avoid spoiling our kid and cluttering up our house. Funny people take it the wrong way. Guess you cannot please everyone."[/quote]

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