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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm in mid-life and I am having similar feelings - about both of my parents.  Except my parents were somewhat abusive as well.  But they provided for us, they sacrificed a lot to give us better lives.

For me it is because, after becoming a parent myself, I'm trying to learn how to be a better parent, and am learning how important emotional connection is.  But really, this is a fairly modern idea and expectation for parent-child relationships.  And I will never have that ideal emotional connection with my parents and it wasn't until recently that I accepted that and am ok with it.  For a long time, I was angry and resentful and sad about it, and was holding onto hope that I could somehow change that before it was "too late".  But I've come to realize that it will not happen - they are not capable of it, and honestly, it would be hard for me also.

You don't have to be emotionally attached.  With my parents, it is more the practical things, and acts of service, that defines our bond.  They know very little of my life, and I have limited knowledge of theirs.  And really, that's ok.  Not every parent-child relationship is that Hallmark version that you see in the movies or on social media.[/quote]

thanks for this.  Not OP, but relate to this very much.  [/quote]

Poster above who said they relate. This all reminded me of a Carolyn Hax column from years ago. I’m hesitant to post because I’m not really a fan but this might give you some other points to consider. OP.

https://www.spokesman.com/stories/2018/aug/05/carolyn-hax-raised-in-a-loveless-home-she-feels-no/[/quote]

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