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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am this way as was my mother.
I must say she got so tired of control she let me go at 17. I inherited her mindset of leading a useful life, so I now control my son and my dad. Not obsessively but I do, to a point where some people think it’s too much.
The problem is that they are both near and dear to my heart and they are very much alike. They live in the land of imagination and are prone to screen addiction. I think they do better when they have somewhat of a schedule and some semblance of rules. My son is 12 so maybe he will develop more self regulation in the future. My dad however is 77 so there isn’t much hope for him. If he doesn’t have a bit of external control he waffles around all day and then engages in self loathing for not being productive.
I would like to know more about my need for control. Maybe that’s my way to feel fulfilled. I have a job but not a career and I do have friends, but my life is all about various life projects (centered around me or my family), so maybe that’s part of it.[/quote]

It doesn’t sound like your life is going perfectly if to plan.  You have no career and are a single parent without any prospect of a life partner.  I’m not sure what makes you think that you have the right to tell other people how to manage their lives when you don’t have your own life together.  [/quote]

But I don’t want a life partner. My child has a father in his life, just to be clear.
I don’t want a career. I have a job and I support myself and partially my child. 
I disagree that there’s anything wrong with the way I live.
Also, I don’t coach people on relationships. Just on leading more or less productive lives. [/quote]

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