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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD had a similar situation when she was a sophomore  Her tight group of friends fragmented with one being the lead in getting nasty and dividing the group.  Our DD was upset as she had never experienced something like this but just powered through.  We coached her on bigger picture as best we could but teenage years are so tough.

The "nasty" girl came around and our DD learned a valuable lesson. Through it all, she kept her head up even though we could see she was hurting.  It also strengthened friendships with other girls who were suffering the same.  Those girls are now still tight tight going into their junior year of college.  None of them speak to the mean girl anymore.

It's so hard for them to trust at this stage that it will all work out.   But it usually does work itself out....and while it may seem like the end of the world, it's just a very short blip in their lives.    Encourage her to keep her head up, focus on the right priorities and friend(s) and ignore the noise.

..and...This may sound harsh but I have no other way to say it

Don't feed the drama with school changes etc and I'm not saying the drama is on her.  BUT she is NOT a victim and she needs to know that and she needs to find a way to deal with it.  She is going to have similar issues at other schools and in life.  Enable and encourage her to find a path through it all and not just become a "victim".  Life is NOT EASY!   Why continue to pretend that it is?  Let her know this is the first of many tough situations she will face and she is more than capable of getting through it.

She can do this!  And she can rock it despite the challenges....don't let her give in/up.  Life lesson...

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I disagree with this. If a school is very small there will be very limited choices for friendships, sports and activities. Why should a child be miserable in the place they spend the most time? Would you stay at a job for eight hours per day for two more years if you were surrounded by a group of co-workers who made your life miserable? Would you encourage someone to stay in a bad marriage? I get the “life is hard” part but in life we also have choices. It’s perfectly fine to think carefully about situation and make a different choice. [/quote]

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