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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]op here thanks to everyone for a lot of good info and suggestions. spoke to a counselor yesterday who's demeanor i was not a huge fan of but have since been recommended to another person's who i will speak to tomorrow.

I think in action to my daily crying bouts i am wondering if many felt totally apathetic to life and your usual desire to socialize, go out, etc...I have zero.

My husbands good friend invited us for NYE, I cannot go. I do not want to be around people celebrating and happy, they deserve it very much but I also know that will be hard for me. 
He really wants me to try and go for. a bit-but I know already its not a good idea.

They are lovely people but very outgoing and outwardly friendly (a great thing btw) but given my mood, I just can't cope with that, or even try to keep up. Is it wrong to tell my husband I simply cannot go? I am urging him to go even for a little bit to have a drink etc...i don't want to hold him back.

Friends of ours insisted to stop by the other day and the minute my mom was brought up, I ran out of the room crying and sobbing. I don't want to repeat that in front of a room with strangers (their other guests). That doesn't seem unreasonable does it?[/quote]

OP, I am the one who lost my dad about 9weeks ago. 
My husband too like yours have been supportive, I cancelled a week long trip to Europe with husband and son,  I couldnt even imagine hopping on a plane and go do sightseeing right now.

We will be home for NYE , and I am dreading that day too. We used to live together at my home so everything reminds me of him. 
Do  read the article a pp posted here - it is very good. The grief will be the same but we will live around it.

It will be completely OK to tell your husband you are not upto it. If he doesnt feel like leaving you and going either, thats OK too. Dont feel guilty. Sit with him with / without a drink and just be. I am not sure if you have any family around maybe have one family come over.

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