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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would try and find Date C. There is no date that my siblings and I would not be available for the funeral of our own parent. We would try to find a way for their elderly siblings to attend if possible. [/quote]

The siblings are not really "elderly."  They are retired but in their 60's and fully mobile, healthy, etc.[/quote]

5-6 years ago my aunt, one of many siblings, died. One sibling did not come to the funeral because he traveled to go to his adult kid's wedding instead. He had recently reconnected with the kid after a long estrangement, and it was the kid's third wedding. To this day, some of the other siblings barely speak to the sibling who missed it, saying that the kid's wedding should not have taken precedence because they'd spent years not talking, and it wasn't that important anyway since it was a 3rd wedding. The sibling who missed it is still pissed off that they didn't reschedule it.

I don't have a strong opinion on this, other than: No matter what is decided, accept it and let it go. Don't let bad feelings over a funeral fester and cause permanent harm to the relationships of the living. That is the very worst way to honor someone who has died.[/quote]

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