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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well you guys clearly have a lot of issues if your sibling is willing to shut you out of your parent’s funeral.

Accommodating the aunts and uncles is a red herring.

Guessing the planning sibling resents the east coast siblings bc dealing with the dying parent probably fell on them (like the funeral planning). That sibling also may not want you guys around to see what is really going on with the parent’s money and possessions.[/quote]

There is resentment towards you. It may or may not be justified. There’s no way to know. You could have very good reason for being distant from your parent when they were alive, so I’m not passing judgement. But this who thing is weird. [b]Why is the planning of the funeral falling to the siblings of the deceased, and not the adult children?
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It looks like you were perceived as never wanting to jump through any hoops for your parent, so now they’re setting up one last test to see if you’ll engage. Or they know you’ll skip it if it’s inconvenient for you, and they’d rather not see you. Also, I don’t really believe that there are only two dates being offered by the cemetery (you should call the cemetery to check). [/quote]

It's not.   The deceased has 3 adult children--one of them is planning the funeral.

Another person asked "what is happening with the body?"   Bodies can actually be kept a long time, waiting for a funeral.  From previous experience, I know that some bodies have literally waited months to be buried in Arlington.  [/quote]

Lots of people also are cremated. Those funerals can happen anytime.[/quote]

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