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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH claims he explicitly told BIL no dog. Dog [b]ended up being tied up[/b] in the freezing cold but BIL still seemed eager to bring the dog in. There were eight kids under 12 in attendance, including two toddlers and two babies.

Previous experience with this dog was Thanksgiving dinner where he brought it without permission and no warning it growls at children. For about the first hour BIL would pin the dog to the floor whenever it growled at a child. As time passed and the dog seemed to relax, BIL helped himself to the dinner I cooked and stopped monitoring the dog, so I was left frantically trying to carry a 20 pound baby around while keeping between the f--king dog and my toddler. DH said "What do you want, I'm eating!". SIL gaslighted me saying "It's not a pitbull".

No apology forthcoming. Clearly he and the other in-laws don't think he did anything wrong.

I am considering the nuclear option and reporting the dog to the city. If I did that I would be the big bad meanie forever of the family. Amazingly, BIL is a licensed childcare provider and works in a public school as some kind of an aid for people with special needs.

Is it an over-reaction to report the dog? [/quote]

So let me get this straight.  A month ago this dog growled at children.  Every person there, including your DH was not concerned.  Given that there were 8 kids there, I assume that the parents of these kids were not concerned.  And nobody was hurt.
A few days ago you were at a separate event where the dog was kept outside.  No growling and no incident.

What is the issue?[/quote]

The first event I was hosting and it was only my children. He lied and said he asked permission. He did not.

Second event was the Airbnb potluck. He would have brought the dog into the house with 8 kids had I not thrown a tempter tantrum. Ironically I did leave with the baby and had McDonald's for Christmas dinner, after cooking for an hour and running errands getting last minute items for the group dinner. My husband stayed with the two olders but the whole event was ruined for us. [/quote]

So he brings the dog, you tell him the dog can't be around the children, so the dog stays outside the whole time.  Yet you leave and eat McDonalds anyway?  It certainly didn't have to be ruined at all.  You chose to let it be ruined.[/quote]

1. I was extremely mad and not in the mood to enjoy dinner with irresponsible @holes 
2. Had I not pitched a fit he may have tried to sneak the dog in. He had repeatedly shown sneaking behavior and disregard to parental preferences. [/quote]

Look, I'm not saying the guy was in the right to bring his dog.  He likely wasn't.  But you made the choice to let it ruin your day.  [/quote]

I will absolutely not be gaslighted about safety issues around my children. If that constitutes letting it ruin my day, so be it. [/quote]

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