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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here,

I totally acknowledge that it must be disappointing for my mom to learn that we are considering changing my daughter’s middle name after we already picked it. I’m also aware that we shouldn’t have announced her name until after her birth. This is our first baby and we have definitely learned our lesson! I always wondered why people waited— now I understand.

I just feel like my mom hasn’t been deserving. We have a very complicated relationship and it was probably (definitely) a mistake to tell her we were using her name. She has just been terrible throughout my pregnancy. She is a narcissist and my therapist suggested that perhaps she’s afraid of losing some control or power. [/quote]

But it’s not [i]her[/i] name—it is the maternal family middle name. It was your great-grandmother’s middle name first. I think it’s a lovely tradition that was not done in my family, but I have observed in my friends’ families. [/quote]

Op here. Thank you for this perspective. I think we are going to keep the name after all. We won’t be announcing until after her birth though! [/quote]

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