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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, in truth there is something mentally wrong with your sibling. My sibling suffers from BPD and is fine hanging out with friends or family, but literally attempted suicide once the expectations of work as an adult entered her life.

My parents nurtured her and papered over any problem in life and drained their life savings on her degrees and housing.

You need to focus on what happens after your parents die. Your brother will be destitute and likely look to you for support.

I would actually counsel your parents to buy him his own cheap place (cheap enough it won’t affect applying for disability and be judgement proof) and setting up some trusts for him after they pass they only dribble out the money.

I would start having him see therapist now to identify his issue  — it may take some time but it’s there. [/quote]

This—a cheap house in a cheap town, plus a trust managed by DH—is what my IL’s did for DH’s brother with diagnosed mental illness. With a diagnosis he also qualified for SSDI, Medicaid, home energy help, and more. Of course, simply not wanting to work isn’t going to qualify anybody for assistance, but if your parents die after he reaches 65 at least he’ll have Medicare and qualify for other public assistance.[/quote]

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