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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you for all your responses, they have given me a lot to think about.  Part of the issue is that I feel sad that I will never have a daughter.  I loved doing mother-daughter things with my mom, like shopping, going out for lunch, tea parties, etc., and I will never get a chance to do those things with my own child and my son has no interest in those kinds of things.  He's interested in sports and video games mainly and has no interest in doing things I'd like to do.  I try to engage with his interests, and I go to all his sports games and try to take an interest in his interests which are mainly Legos and Minecraft, but honestly I have no genuine interest in these things.  He and my husband do a lot together and even though I go with them I feel left out emotionally because they bond over their shared interests and I don't share their interests.  I have tried to find things that my son and I can connect on and it's been a real challenge.  We do play board games and draw together, but my son isn't really as interested in those.

The other part of the issue is that I feel very sad that my son will never really have any family on my side.  I just have my parents (I have a sister who lives in Hawaii and who we rarely see).  My parents are disinterested grandparents and we only see them once a year.  They don't really have any interest in getting to know their only grandchild.  Aunts, uncles, and cousins are not in the picture.  My husband's family is dysfunctional and we rarely see them. My son has one cousin who is 10 years older who we see once a year.  I wanted to provide more family for him and for me by growing our family but that did not happen naturally.  Holidays are just the three of us and feel very lonely (though we do try to travel for most holidays whenever possible which helps with the loneliness somewhat).

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