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[quote=Anonymous]This happens. Sometimes all the adult children in one family do not want kids.

My SIL has never wanted kids and now approaching 45 that has come to solidify. Can't tell if it's a bond or a rift between her and her husband, but that's none of my business. MIL took it fine but absolutely has had moments of pushing kids and not believing that kids were not in the cards (now she accepts it, obviously).

My DH also never wanted kids. But being a mother was a non-negotiable for me. It was an issue in our early relationship, but we worked through our priorities and had a kid and is a great father. We all make compromises and that was his (mine was fewer kids, which has actually worked out great). To be clear our kid is not "a compromise": it's OUR KID. I am just sharing our story.

If this is emotional for you just suspend the thought and don't comment and try not to think about it, as it's NOT your business or place. Do you have other children or is this your only shot at grandparenthood? Not that this should affect your approach or your daughters decision, but I understand how that might be more difficult for you. I have an aunt and uncle with 3 children (50s) who never became parents, and I am sure it is privately crushing for her but it is what it is.

You'll be fine. Focus on supporting your own child in ways that help her become a stronger and happier adult. If she is concerned about cost of living, generally, support her in ways that help her move to a lower cost of living area, etc... Don't focus on future kids or "your mistakes" which are not mistakes. [/quote]

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