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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I assumed my married life would be similar to my parents and my family life growing up. I would live in a nice single family house in a nice neighborhood. I would have 2 cars and a dog. I would decorate the house for Christmas. I would have nice furniture.

Well...I married someone with whom our combined income does not make that life feasible in Northern Virginia. We rent an apartment and cannot afford to have nice furniture. It now seems that that life will never come by to us. I am trying to make peace with it. Anyone else in similar circumstances?[/quote]

Not me, but my kids. My lifestyle is nicer than what I was raised with and I am glad I can share that with my parents. My husband took a slight downgrade, but we still have a SFH and 2 kids in Arlington, so we are doing just fine. A lot of what we have is based on dumb luck (fortunate stock market timing, our current mortgage at 2021 rates) and circumstances that are hard to replicate (my husband and I both spent our 20’s living in low cost Midwestern mid-size cities). We are comfortable, but not wealthy enough to launch our children into a similar lifestyle. I don’t think the lifestyle we have currently is attainable with two “normal” jobs - like a Fed + a teacher. [/quote]

As to what I am doing to make peace with it? I’m raising my kids to understand it’s probably a good idea to go to a university outside the DMV / NYC / Silicon Valley areas and that they should take co-ops and internships in places with a reasonable cost of living so that they consider living other places and developing careers that aren’t tethered to the federal government. [/quote]

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