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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about you take your MIL with you. How about DH takes his Father along with him.[/quote]

OP here. “Take them along” where? They don’t want to go on a walk around the nearby lake that has a few playgrounds around it (totally flat and smooth surface, and they have no mobility issues). They don’t want to go see a family movie together. They don’t want to drive through the light show. They don’t want to go to a museum or aquarium. They don’t even want to go out to lunch. If I suggested to MIL she “come along” with me to the grocery store or to get a pedicure, she would not want to go. If DH suggested that FIL “come along” with him to Lowe’s or to rake leaves, he wouldn’t want to.

“But we came here to see YOU” is the constant refrain. If we let the kids go out and ride bikes, that’s frowned upon because “we came here to see YOU.”[/quote]

You can not change them.  You can change the fact that it bothers you.  Send your DH downstairs around whatever time they normally wake up to make coffee and get breakfast started.  The rest of you appear whenever.  IGNORE the comments about "we can to see YOU" and say "Yes, we'll be back around 2pm, see you then!" as you take the kids outside.  But the main way to deal with this is the just pretend you don't even notice all the comments.  I think I've heard this referred to as "dumb and cheerful".  You are upbeat, you are doing what you want, and by golly the little comments don't even pierce your silly little brain![/quote]

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