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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this may be less unusual than people are admitting here. I’m dealing w something similar post baby and I know others who are too. It’s very difficult. [/quote]

I fully agree with this. I’m not saying it’s OK or that you shouldn’t be frustrated but what you are experiencing is extremely common so don’t feel alone or that no one else has felt this. Divorce risk spikes after the birth of the first child and it is a time of heightened stress and dysregulation for a lot of families. The introduction of a new person that you are responsible for caring for is extremely difficult and it should be respected as such. I agree with you, your husband should make an effort to participate in family activities and he is not behaving in a way that is fair to you or that respects your needs. I also think that, if you love him and believe him to be a responsible partner who would never put your physical or financial safety at risk, you should wait before initiating divorce. Personally, I would not get a divorce during a particularly emotional and volatile time in your lives.

please don’t feel like you are alone, though. Jokes about moms dragging their husbands to apple picking, or community events, or family activities abound. This does not make it right and it is a cultural norm that is unfair to women but it is one and I have seen plenty of women experience disappointment at how their husbands are not proactively involved in planning and enjoying family activities. And, when you see those happy families with the husbands participating in whatever the event is, don’t assume that everyone else has it all figured out. Plenty of posters on here will tell you that their husbands are amazing and do all of it and they will let it be known but, behind closed doors, there are a lot of husbands that prioritize what they want over family outings. You don’t have to put up with this and you can get a divorce if this trend continues but I just really hope you don’t feel like it’s just you experiencing it. [/quote]

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