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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you need to give it more time.  Right now you know that he hates parenting an infant.  [b]Okay.  Many people feel this way[/b].  How is he going to be with a 6 yo?  Will he be spending hours in the backyard kicking soccer goals with them and coach their team?  Will he be more interested in a kid?  I think you don't know yet.

I'm not saying that you don't deserve to leave.  He's being a royal jerk.  But also think about what you are getting from the relationship currently and what else you could get him to contribute.  Presumably he's helping pay living expenses and a rent/mortgage.  He's also willing to take the baby for a whole day or parts of a day so you can have a break.  What about chores?  Does he pay bills, do the yard, wash dishes, give the baby a bath, etc?  All of that would fall on you if you left.  Don't take what he's providing for granted.  You can always leave when the baby is bigger and is less needy.  Hold tight and see how things go.

In the meantime think about starting to build a life for you and the baby.  If you were single with a baby all weekend, what would you do?  My guess is you'd make other friends with babies and start to form a network.  Do that now.  And if they have spouses he can meet to help build him a new friend circle, all the better.[/quote]

Don't normalize the DH behavior. The feelings are normal, mayyyyybe. Many people dislike or struggle with this or that aspwct of parenting but we still DO IT because it's part of being a good parent, a good spouse (not making the other person do it all alone), and a decent person.

Who cares if he will suddenly be "better" (which I doubt) bc a 6yo is more "interesting" to him?? He's shown his true colors, which is IDGAF about OP or his child.[/quote]

This has been the norm for several generations. Many many marriages are a woman basically being a single parent. I know because I was in one and most of my friends have the same situation where the dad does absolutely nothing until the kid goes to school.[/quote]

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