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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, I feel like you have been listening in on my conversations with my husband. In my case when I offer to call someone to do a home repair he takes it as an affront to his manhood or something. Like I don't trust him enough to clean the gutters so I must not think much of his home maintenance abilities. In reality, this project gets put off for so long and I think it's worth the cost to take something off his list. I don't have any advice, just empathy.[/quote]

I had a friend whose DH was like this. She finally hit on an idea that worked. She told her DH in an off handed tone, well ok if you want to but I really don't think men at your income level do things like rake the leaves..."
He ignored the comment in the moment but didn't complain when the yard service turned up and cleaned up the yard. They aren't super high income either. I think for her DH just giving him the idea that he was "too rich" to be doing the work helped. [/quote]

Good move by the friend! Some people are good at this. Some people truly can't afford it. But for a lot of people, the need to DIY seems truly arbitrary, often based on some sketchy cultural assumptions. [/quote]

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