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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We always talk to our HS Senior about making safe choices when they go out, calling us, using Uber, etc. Well they recently announced to us that we can stop b/c they don't drink and are always the designated driver for their friends. Don't get me wrong, DH and I are not disappointed, and if this is ultimately their lifestyle choice we support it 100%, but we are concerned DC is going to go to college and decide to drink with 0 experience - which could be dangerous. [/quote]

This is a legitimate concern.  Our daughter’s college roommate was a skinny little thing who never drank before college and once she got there she would get herself absolutely hammered and our daughter would have to take care of her.  Overly protective parents in high school really do their kids a disservice.  [/quote]

this is one of the judgy-est threads I’ve read on dcum and that is saying a lot. plenty of teens don’t drink in HS and college and it isn’t due to overprotective parents. my own HS aged teens and their friends don’t drink and don’t go to parties, because that is their social “scene.” They watch movies, get food, hang out and play poker or whatever. If that’s what teens feel most comfortable doing, should we push them to chug a beer and go to a party?? geez[/quote]

It’s not judging at all.  It’s reality.  Unless your kid goes to Grove City, Liberty or BYU when they go to college they are going to be exposed to a lot of drinking, and in all likelihood they are going to join in.  In my experience, it’s the kids who had strict parents in high school who are the most at risk when it comes to not handling the transition well.  I’m not saying they’re all going to turn into drunken floosies or predatory frat boys, but they are going to have adjustment issues.

Every single one of my kids’ high school friends (we raised four kids) ALL drink now.  They ALL do.  It’s gonna happen to your kids, too.  It’s amazing how divorced so many of you are from reality.  You really can’t remember college?  Did you speed age from 30 to 80 the moment you gave birth?  [/quote]

There's a difference between kids who, on their own, choose not to drink, versus kids who want to try alcohol but are too scared to cross their parents.  Sure, even the former may eventually choose to drink in college (that was me, for example), and some may go overboard, but the most irresponsible partiers in my fraternity were proficient drinkers before they left high school. [/quote]

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