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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you clingy or needy? Are you socially awkward? Do you drink too much and act silly? How do you socialize with your husband at other social events like a wedding, neighborhood get together, etc.

Is your husband socially awkward? Is he somehow a different personality at work? Has he embellished or exaggerated stories that you might tell more honestly?

It’s odd that your spouse either doesn’t want people to meet you or feels like he can’t have fun with you present. He’s either embarrassed of you or he’s self conscious of you seeing him in a social situation.

I love going to my spouse’s work things or taking him to mine. It’s our chance to meet the people we have heard so much about. [/quote]

DP here.  This response comes closest to my way of thinking.  Not a single other poster suggested that OP do any inward looking beyond asking why this is the only dressy affair the couple goes to each year.  It could very well be that OP is socially awkward and requires a lot of attention and that bringing her to his work party is exhausting for him.  I for one appreciate his honesty.

Our company had a long history of not inviting guests to its holiday party, which my spouse was perfectly fine with, but it eventually reneged after years of complaints by the clingy few that the policy was not family friendly, set employees up to get in trouble with each other, sent the wrong message, etc.  Then my spouse started to go and wished the policy never changed.  They’d always just pair up with the same spouses of colleagues, suffer through it with them, and be glad when it was over.  It was easier to do that then skip the event and raise eyebrows and get the gossipers going.

If I were OP I’d be grateful and appreciative of my spouse’s honesty.  [/quote]

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