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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you want an “elegant evening out,” get on the stick and plan one. Make a nice dinner reservation, get Kennedy Center or opera or ballet tickets, buy seats a charity gala, etc. YOU create the evening out you want.[/quote]

Another of these? Yes, absolutely she can and should do all that. It doesn't change the fact her DH fabricated a weak excuse to tell her not to come, or the fact she was so stunned she just accepted it, when going to these events had meaning for her.

I would wager they don't communicate clearly or well about other aspects of their marriage either. A lot of PPs here are not seeing the larger problem and only think the question is about this one party or about not having enough date nights.

So, OP, do you and he talk past each other like this about other things as well? Or maybe he dislikes his work and just sees the party as a chore and having you there makes him feel he has to pretend to enjoy it more? Or conversely -- maybe he wants to party without you? I'm not going to leap to "he's having an affair" unless you think there are other red flags. Is he socially awkward or something? Does he make you feel like you're a problem or in his way in other aspects of his life? [/quote]

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