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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Boy D1 soccer. Was clear that was his likely path by age 12, 7th grade. [/quote]

The problem is 99% of parents with 12-year old boy travel players on top teams at that she think they same.  It rarely pans out.[/quote]

I think parents have a pretty good idea of whether their kid can cut it and play in college, based on talent and willingness to put in the work.  When it doesn't pan out, it's not because the kid lacked talent or that the parent's assessment was wrong, it's that the kid no longer wants to put in the work (maybe wanted to to focus on a diff sport, academics, social life, etc.).  Sure, there are some parents who will force it but I think that's less common that what it seems like on the DCUM forums.  I have middle school kids who are good enough to play in college if they stick with it.  But I will heavily discourage them from playing in college.  College is for academics, not sports.  I'd rather they work in college (like their parents did) then put their bodies through that grind.  Unless playing the sport in college is a prerequisite to be able to turn professional, I just don't see the point.  [/quote]

What will you do if your kids love the sport and want to see how far they can go with it? Not like getting a scholarship or going pro, but just seeing what they can achieve. An athlete with that internal drive isn't just going to want to quit because their parents think it's not worth it. Playing and being good at the sport may be a huge part of their identity and give them a lot of confidence and self-efficacy, which carries over to other areas of life. Maybe it's hard to understand if you don't have the drive. I did and I would have hated my parents if they had told me I couldn't continue competing in college. I knew academics came first and I graduated with a near perfect GPA, with scholar-athlete recognition at my university and at the conference level. My best athletic years were during college and I know that I am still reaping the physical benefits of having continued into young adulthood. Yes there is some wear and tear on my body but I learned so many important lessons about hard work, persistence, and delayed gratification that I now carry into my parenting and work life.[/quote]

Well said, love this!

I did my sport in college, my daughter will do hers at a much higher level. Academics are not her favorite thing, and I will say I believe having another structured component to college life will be a benefit. It is one of the big factors making her excited for college, and I think that identity will really help her transition. [/quote]

This is so, so kid-dependent. I have two that play competitive sports and zero thoughts or cares about whether they play in college. But one of them definitely has the drive if that's what happens (the other most definitely does not, and that's fine). College athletics is a LOT, but some people thrive on that kind of structure and challenge. If so, more power to them.[/quote]

You have no clue until you experience yourself [/quote]

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