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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men start becoming unhappy once the first baby is born 
I’d say most on line virtually cheat [/quote]

My ex definitely fell off the cliff of happiness once the second was born. I learned later his dad did when the third was born. Why is this? Expectations went down for both of them. My theory is that [b]they feel they are replaced[/b].[/quote]

To a significant extent, they are replaced. Babies require a lot of attention. There's no avoiding that. But husband/fathers become invisible in a way that I don't think wives/mothers do. Combine that with men's usually weak social networks even without a baby, and it makes things worse. In a traditional situation where the man is working and expected to spend non-work hours relieving his wife from childcare duties, he's not going to have opportunities for social situations anyway. Mom might at least get out with the kid to hang with other moms during the day. She might get out for a girl's night after Dad comes home from work. There's a fantastic chance that the couple's sex life is going to tank for a couple of years at least.

None of that is to excuse men cheating. A real man can suck it up and endure. Forge a relationship with your kids. That alone is worth more than what you might lose. And if you can avoid doing unnecessary damage to your relationship with your wife, it might even bounce back to pre-baby quality or better in five or ten years. [/quote]

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