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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not sure why everyone is saying stick with one. I am a introverted SAHM, but when we had two my husband worked in big law. One kid was much more draining with one than two as a sahm. With two there was a playmate, to distract, but still one bath, one dinner to prepare, one hour at the playground, one hour book time.  Even now when they are older, I still find it easier. I don’t have to do every puzzle, board game, etc with just the one. Easier for the introvert in me I think

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This only works out if they get along. I have two and they do play together but it requires me to referee every 5-15 minutes and is not usually a “break” for more than a short time. If you are low energy and don’t expect your DH to contribute much (other than financially), you should definitely stick with one unless you are sure you will have the funds for 1 or more nannies and the ability to outsource a LOT for the foreseeable future. 2 kids is more than 2x the work because the added stress and trying to manage the needs (emotional, physical) of 2 kids at one time (as only one person). I would say it might be doable if the kids are spaced out by 5 or more years - but that doesn’t sound like that’s likely an option for you.

I’m low energy, have two elementary age kids, and a very involved DH and I’m still exhausted at the end of every day.[/quote]

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