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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We did 24/7 for 7-10 days when our father was in ICU.  But in rehab-nope.  But then again he was an MD and was very mentally there in rehab.  He sometimes just needed to rest.[/quote]

This is one thing we were told. Even when a little disoriented they need rest, and when you are there they feel they need to be "on." It's a trade off because you aren't there to advocate, but if you don't get rest and the person doesn't get rest it's not good.[/quote]

The “being” on part varies — possibly wildly.  When I was with my Mom in hospitals, she actually felt more relaxed so that she could sleep and rest.  I agree that it’s good to be sensitive to the impact that your presence might have.  I often sat out of direct view, reading a book, so my presence was felt, but I avoided cues that pulled for social interaction— unless my Mom clearly wanted that.  The presence of private duty caregivers seemed similar. The presence of other people who came to “visit” was often exhaustingly stressful for my Mom, though, because she felt like she had to be “on” and responsive with her “guests”.

OP,  as you can see, there are no perfect options. Most of us in these situations do our best with the resources that we have to work with at the time.

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