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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are a woman in an interracial marriage trying to introduce your kids to their dad’s culture, you also have to be careful of navigating other women of the culture gatekeeping what is appropriate for you to do or not. I’ve always tried to portray myself as an ally to the culture instead of fully part of the culture my kids are part of. It’s tiring and I can see why some may choose to not even participate. [/quote]

+1. As a white mom in this situation, I get looked down on by Asian moms for not raising my kids sufficiently “Asian”, but it’s also implicit that my kids aren’t welcome at language  school, the cultural center, etc. Then we get into the nuances of regional variations of cultural, language, and tradition, and my family’s traditions are always “wrong” or “not how we do it.” It doesn’t help that I married into a very direct culture with different rules for what’s ok to say to someone and what’s not. My DH and I persist in trying to raise our kids in his culture and mine, but have dropped a few things that were actually important to us because we didn’t want the kids to pick up on how unwelcome they were at some of the activities.

In the interest of equality and full disclosure, my own white mom pulls the same crap from her side![/quote]

East or south asian? I am married to a south asian guy from Bangladesh. We attend language school and Muslim cultural events. I have never had issues. I have more friends from his culture than my own, and I am a white American. We live in a condo. with lots of internationals and Muslim and Indian (not Muslim in my case ) moms have been the most receptive to playdates. [/quote]

East! The South Asian families we know are super friendly and welcoming. [/quote]

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