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[quote=Anonymous]	A parenting marriage wouldn’t last for me, op, because I’d refuse to live that way. I wouldn’t want to be married to someone with no adult relationship, no sex, no affection, no lying in bed just holding each other, no date nights, no shared experiences where you look over at each other or touch and both think “wasn’t that amazing.. and wasn’t it amazing to be sharing that with you?” 
As for your kid, you’ve got no way to know what your kid will pick up on or what they will care about. 
My concern for your kid is that you will treat him too much like an adult.  You’ve already mentioned you are overly affectionate with him, yet you won’t work on your marriage because you just don’t want to. Do you know how messed-up that is? If not, why not?

You say you don’t care if your husband is sleeping with other people. You will if he gets someone pregnant, or is even on the list of potential fathers, or if a nut shows up at your house, or most likely, if he’s just cold to you, turning your back when you tell him “Hey, did you see how some random player on tv hit that ball!” or telling you “No adult needs a birthday cake, I can’t believe you’d expect one” when plenty of women swoon when their husband brings home their favorite dessert. 
You may also not be as chill if your husband wrecks the car coming home from or on his way to see a girlfriend, or if a former girlfriend shows up as your son’s teacher, coach, or moves into the school district with her husband because it’s a nice place to live and you have to sit politely near her at a school function or your son becomes friends with her kid. 
As For you finding a lover, you can, though you won’t find  healthy man who will hop to it whenever you want sex and companionship and then go home and read deep literature while you’re “enjoying family time… with your husband”. No healthy person with any self-worth would put up with that. You aren’t living in a French movie, op.

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