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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I bring a book or magazine so whenever I need to disengage from conversations, I start reading and let my husband finish up.[/quote]

That would be considered incredibly rude in my family![/quote]

Np here. So if I go spend 5 days with your family, I can never have a quiet moment reading in a comfortable chair?  That's nuts![/quote]

In my family of origin, relaxing and time to yourself only occurs very early (6-7am) or very late (after 10 pm). If people are awake and you are doing something for yourself or that keeps you separate from everyone else, my mother considers it to be selfish and rude. And not just for guests- when I was a kid my door was expected to be at least half open during waking hours and if I was sitting down to read or listen to music, I “had time on my hands” and would be assigned a chore. Some people are like this.

But enough about my crazy mom and back to OP’s ILs. I’m guessing that they are stir-crazy, their house feels too full (to them) with guests, and/or like another PP suggested, you guys each too much or make too much of a mess/wear and tear on their house (again, to them, not objectively).

My nephews are really hard on my house- wiping hands on furniture, scraping walls with toys, banging chair legs into stuff- and eat anything that isn’t frozen solid. I learned this the hard way when I had to re-buy an entire holiday grocery list. When they visit now, we are out from morning to dinner for my own sanity and because I hate that their mom lets them leave half-eaten, expensive food and dishes everywhere. [/quote]

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