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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]If you mean couples counseling, no, because there is nothing about us as a couple to salvage. Perhaps we could benefit from a counselor who specializes in establishing and maintaining successful parenting marriages - do those exist?[/quote]

I have read your posts and they prompted me to wonder how a couple gets to this place, and I don’t mean that in a snarky way.  I think it’s maybe because I would definitely push a conversation with my spouse when I noticed the issues, and force done kind of plan of action.  Did you and your DH discuss your issues early on, or were you both comfortable letting things roll?[/quote]

I'd say our issues surfaced after DC was born (which is also why we stopped at just one), when H refused to either 1) pull back from his extremely demanding job so he could help more with childcare. or 2) move to the private sector where he could make multiples of his salary and allow me to scale back from my job. So in addition to my full-time job, I also became DC's primary caregiver outside of daycare. Perhaps unsurprisingly, I lost attraction to H during this time. DC is now in elementary school, and our issues pretty much remain the same - we just don't discuss them out loud anymore.[/quote]

Have you tried counseling? This sounds like a pretty garden variety disconnect. I would try that first before going to either divorce or a lifetime of disconnectedness.[/quote]

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