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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is why I always tell parents who feel like they're going to divorce when the kid is in college to just DO IT NOW.

Financially, I have no comment. My parents' divorce attorneys negotiated all that for them.

But, emotionally for me as a college senior and my brother as a college freshman, it was TERRIBLE. I wish they had just done it when I was younger, at least then I would have had peers with similar experiences. Going through it as a young adult was deeply traumatizing and I still have lingering issues to this day.

(And, no, my parents didn't "fool" me with their 'happy marriage' until their divorce, either. We, as kids, knew something was up for years.)
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My parents divorced when I was 5 and it was TERRIBLE for me - deeply traumatizing and I still have lingering issues from it to this day.

I think trauma is much less the product of the age of the kids when you divorce, but of how the divorce is conducted. My parents' divorce was extremely bitter and contentious, each parent hated the other (they still hate each other decades later), each parent demanded we take their side against the other parent.[/quote]

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