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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow this sounds like my own wedding from last month - took place in Europe, blocked hotel for $150/night, no kids allowed, guests had to wear autumn colors. Honestly we told our guests they were not expected to give a gift since it was a destination wedding, but a lot of people did give anyway and we did notice who did and who didn’t give. It was understandable for younger people in their 20s not to give but for older established folks, it was pretty awkward to see.

Unfortunately since it sounds like it’s not a destination wedding and the couple didn’t let you off the hook, I agree that you may as well suck it up and just do a 150$ gift. [/quote]

Of course you had a destination wedding.[/quote]

"[i]It was understandable for younger people in their 20s not to give but for older established folks, it was pretty awkward to see.[/i]"

Shaking my head.[/quote]

I am PP that everyone is making fun of with the autumn wedding and I want to say whoa, you guys are really overreacting! To clarify, we said “no gifts are necessary” and meant it. We understood a gift to Europe was a great expense for most, especially our friends in their 20s. That is not the same as “no gifts allowed.” We honestly expected to have 0 gifts at all, but when quite a few people did give gifts - even those without much money - we were very thankful. However, it’s hard not to compare when folks saving for their own wedding chip in 50 or 100, but old retired family friends with millions don’t give. I’m not bitter or anything, I’m very glad they had fun at the wedding and that’s the most important thing! it’s just something you notice that’s all.

Either way, since it was a destination wedding we completely understood if folks didn’t want to go for whatever reason - too annoying, money, etc. Totally fine! We had a blast regardless and put on a fantastic party for our guests. We did our best to give them a once in a lifetime experience that was worth the troubles (I won’t go into details to out myself, but the guests who did come got to have some very unique experiences).

Anyway, sorry to OP that people decided to pounce on my comment and derail your thread but if you don’t want to go, you can decline and  send a gift (like 100-200$) as others suggested and I’m sure the couple will be thankful. 
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