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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had multiple miscarriages before conceiving, both at 33 and 36. Even though I did ultimately have a live birth both times, the losses were hard and I wish people were more upfront about the likelihood of more emotionally difficult losses in this age range. [/quote]

I'm very sorry for your losses but some of us can't be up front about that because it never happened to us. I got pregnant about two months after we started trying when I was 35 and I had the baby at 36, and the same when I was 38/39. It was easy peasy, no fertility struggles. I feel the opposite of you -- the internet tells you it will be so hard,  you're so old, blah blah but I and my good friends had no trouble at all having babies at 35+ The struggles are a lie. Your miscarriages are just genetics, PP. Again, very sorry for your losses.[/quote]

You just don’t know about the people that struggled. It happens and is certainly not a lie, people just keep quiet about it. [/quote]

You're absolutely right -- NO ONE talks about miscarriages in their 20s. They are far more common than any woman wants to believe. THAT is the real lie - that everyone thinks it's super easy for women in their 20s, but the thing is they have miscarriages and struggle with fertility all the time and they just DON'T TALK ABOUT IT because they worry people will think there's something wrong with them, because they're in the 20s and are supposed to be in prime fertility. It's like this -- MISCARRIAGES HAPPEN ALL THE TIME TO EVERY ONE AT ALL AGES. [/quote]

Sorry are you trying to say they aren’t meaningfully more common in your mid 30s than your 20s?[/quote]

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