Reply to Grandparents annoying the kids

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Grandparents annoying the kids "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]OP, I agree that you invite them for a long weekend and be VERY CLEAR at the invite stage that as of Monday/Tuesday/whenever the kids go back to school, you will be back in your normal routine.  It’s great that they stay in a hotel.  Send them a schedule in advance:
“Friday night: we’d love for you to join us for dinner.  Afterwards, We have a family movie night. Caitlyn will be choosing the movie.  
Saturday: We are taking the kids to the Mall to see Santa/to a botanical garden/to an indoor gym with a few friends.  We would love for you to join us and then we can all go out to lunch.
Sunday: We are attending church/Iman’s soccer tournament/an art gallery, then lunch out
Monday: we booked a pedicab tour of the monuments/tickets to the latest marvel flick/a slot at a paint your own pottery studio then lunch out
Tuesday we are back to the old grindstone, but let me know if you need a ride to the airport.!”

For the weekend days, have an Outing, then take them to lunch.  Then for the afternoons, have shifts that you assign the kids in advance.  E.g., if you are home from lunch around 2, then you have dinner at 6:30, have Kid A sit around the living room with grandparents 2-4, then kid B is on duty 4-6, then from 6-6:30 everyone helps make dinner and has a nice meal together.  After dinner kids are excused for bath/homework/getting ready for bed and you and DH entertain until whatever time (9?).

From Tuesday onward no one will sit with them in the living room at all.  You are all doing what you would normally do.  You don’t have to lock them out but they can be a bump on a log without any catering to or encouraging that.

The goal is to reward them with a wonderful weekend if they stay the preferred amount of time and participate in group activities.  If they refuse to do either, they will have limited time with the kids and a crappy visit.  Let them experience the results of their choices instead of protecting them from it.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics