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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't care about the terminology that much but as someone who had a traumatic birth with an epidural that I felt forced into, I dislike when people compare birth stories or talk about childbirth as though most women have a lot of control over it. I felt very vulnerable when I gave birth, I did not have sufficient advocacy, and the epidural I only sort of agreed to made me too groggy to effectively advocate for myself.

So when people get all hung up on natural or unmedicated or whatever, and sit around talking about what women *should* do, I get annoyed because it's often loaded with judgment.

If you actually care about the medicalized nature of most childbirth in the US (which I do, in general and due to my specific experience) then advocate for pregnant women and take issue with a healthcare system that does not listen to them or trust them to know what their own bodies need. Don't go around criticizing women for the "choices" they made, often without anyone in the room who cared to let them make a choice and a lot of structures in place to force them in one direction or another.

If I had it to do again I'd get a doula but it makes me quite angry that women have to pay someone to basically advocate for and listen to them during birth. It's messed up it's even come to this.

The only woman I know who felt like she had real power and authority during her childbirth experiences had home births, but she's also quite wealthy which is part of why she felt entitled to that experience and also part of how she was able to make it happen. Most of us are pretty beholden to our insurance company and a more limited access to healthcare professionals.[/quote]

I had a doula and found her less helpful than I thought she’d be going into it[/quote]

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