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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter is also 15 and I felt this way for awhile. It was coping, like deciding I would not have her closely in life somehow helped me survive the now. I was counting down - just 3 more years type talk.

Someone here said work on how things are now. And I had a lot of boundary issues, both stop this boundaries and treating others/me expectation boundaries.

It is very hard to see beyond now when in the thick of it, but try to catch the little glimpses of how they've changed or are changing. A good therapist for them and you if needed helps too.

It might be easier to think you won't like them, you won't engage, but this is self protective in some way, and the truth is you won't likely know until you actually meet their more mature selves. Keep working on teaching truth into their entitlement. If you don't have empathy for them caught in their teenage brain that's OK, but keep at it and things will slowly shift.[/quote]

Aren't you the adult in this relationship? Why you are just throwing up boundaries *now*? Why is the default that the child needs a therapist and not the adult who failed to effecitvely parent from the jump?[/quote]

Wow you are a real piece of work aren't you[/quote]

I’m not the one writing off my 15 year old daughter and blaming her for the breakdown of the relationship. [/quote]

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