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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kids are eight and almost 11. Been divorced for two years and they are absolutely fine and were always absolutely fine. We told them mommy bought a new house and they literally said “great! can we go pack?”

We never fought in front of them in fact we’ve barely had any relationship whatsoever at all. One of us kept the house one of us moved nearby. It was pretty much a non-event. They’ve been fine the entire time. I don’t really think marriage matters that much… I think it’s all about the parents. If you can be civil in front of each other and even sometimes go to the same school activities together, it really is fine. Their only inconvenience is really switching houses but they told me that they don’t really mind having two houses at all and sometimes the switching is annoying but it’s really not that bad because we live minutes apart. [/quote]

This is a very common attitude. It then shocks parents when their kids as teens become sullen, withdrawn and emotional. Once they are teens they then have a better understanding of relationships and can express emotions and better reflect and understand their own emotional responses. They understand they can feel resentful for having to not have emotions before and making sure their parents felt ok.

So do yourself a favor now. Take some time to actually think about your kids. Think about what it must be like to suddenly not know which place is their house when people ask - where do you live? which house is they tell the person? Now they have 2 bedrooms - but which one do they know feel is their one? which one do they really feel secure in? the holidays are coming up - what they want is to wake up with both parents there to celebrate but they instead worry about what it will be like to split the day, will their parent be sad they aren’t there all day? will they be sad? Your kids have feelings. They aren’t robots. [/quote]

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