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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m someone who acted on the feelings.  Don’t do it OP, it’s not real.  Like someone said earlier it’s not him, it’s how he makes you feel.  In my case the coworker would notice when I got a haircut, or wore a new outfit.  He paid attention to what I liked and didn’t like and would make me dinner consisting of something he’d noticed I’d enjoyed at some point. (We were away for several weeks on work travel).

There’s nothing at all like the feeling of actually being seen by a living, breathing, attractive member of the opposite sex when you feel completely invisible in your long term marriage to your nice guy.  Who you feel hasn’t actually seen you in years and would never, ever notice if you got a haircut.

In my case I fell for it, had what I thought was a good time for a few weeks, broke it off when the trip ended, came home from travel and felt horrible and came clean to my husband.  He pretty much immediately (okay within a few months) decided he could never get over the betrayal and we divorced just over a year later.  The rest is history.

My world blew up quicker than I ever thought was possible.  My XH, who I thought would try to at least work on things, basically took off and was done.  No second chances for me.

In retrospect I wasn’t actually even attracted to the guy.  My XH was better looking and a better catch.  But being around someone who listened to you and noticed you when you hadn’t experienced that for a long time was like a buffet for someone who is starving.  I’m a total jerk for my behavior, I should have thought about what was missing from my own relationship and worked on that.  Life lesson I would highly not recommend anyone else having to learn.[/quote]

Holy crap you're an idiot.  OP, the only lesson to take from this PP is don't tell anyone!  [/quote]

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