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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Walk to school. Do an activity with other friends. Host a party or larger playdate. Do smaller one on one playdates with kids your kids really get along well with.[/quote]

OP. I'm doing all this, but many people are too busy to join activities, playdates, or parties. The only people who RSVP yes are socially awkward or boring. I feel like I'm doomed to hang out with people I don't actually like because all the interesting people's dance cards are full. [/quote]

You sound mean.  Either give the "socially awkward" or "boring" people a chance or stop complaining that you don't have friends[/quote]

NP, but I agree that this take ("all the interesting people's dance cards are full") puts the issue in a new light.  I make friends easily, have for decades, and "interesting" isn't high on my list of qualities I seek in a friend.  Sure, that's a nice bonus, but what matters far more is being mutual, open, kind, etc.  The dance card analogy doesn't work well with true adult friendships, because they're not about popularity.[/quote]
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Some people may be more awkward or take longer to warm up, but be good people.  Sometimes it takes a while to find the thing that you have in common that clicks.  Or the things about them that are interesting and fun. 
 But you don't really know the "interesting" people, since they won't spend time with you, so it sounds like you're judging people pretty quickly and shallowly.  And you might not be as interesting as you think you are.  [/quote]

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