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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My FIL couldn't care less about my children's existence. He was like that with my husband growing up as well. Basically he treats kids as annoyances.

My MIL wants to be involved but she wants to be needed, so she prefers my husband's sister and her kids because they need her time and money and we don't.

My mom has early onset dementia and she loves my children and gets them little gifts and wants to spend time with them. If she weren't so disabled she'd be a lovely grandmother but it's hard.

My dad was the best grandparent in the world and he died last year. It was a huge loss.

There's no right answer, OP. Some people have awful parents. Some have wonderful parents. Some live close by, some far away. Some have lots of money, some have none. Haven't you seen this with your friends? There is no one size fits all situation here.[/quote]

OP here. I know there's not a right answer. Part of my asking this is it seems like most of my friends/acquaintances DO have parents/ILs that are really interested in their kids. I do actually feel like the odd one out, particularly when certain situations come up in conversation. I don't care anything about money, we don't need/want/expect their money. Their time and interest means a lot more to me than anything. It just hurts because I feel like one set is really missing out and kids don't stay kids forever. [/quote]

PP here. I get it. My best friend's parents live in the same city and are super involved with her kids. They are very, very lucky, all of them. My closest local friend lost her dad 11 years ago and her mom has never been involved and has since moved to FL. We have sort of made our own family, and we know our kids are loved by lots of people and have plenty of adults in their lives. I get that it's hard to be the odd one out in this situation, and I hope you are able to find other relationships that are meaningful for your kids. Family isn't always the answer. [/quote]

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